Jim with Haskell Rogers on his first visit, May 2010
The Passing of a Gentleman
The phone rang this afternoon as I was slicing apples into a
pan for apple crisp---a fitting and homey dish for a chilly day. I laid down my knife, and caught the phone
on the second ring.
Our neighbor, Dale Hayes, never identifies himself when
calling, but we know his voice. “Mrs. Whitehurst”, he said, “I’m calling to let
you and Jim know that Haskell passed away this afternoon.”
Such news is not unexpected when someone has lived well into
his 90’s, still my reaction was an immediate, ‘Oh, no!’
A heart attack on Monday, Dale recounted, into the hospital
then, and death had come on this Wednesday. ‘He was out driving last week!’
Dale’s tone was wry.
We purchased our farm on the Old Gradyville Road in March,
2010, from J. M. Shelley who had bought the place at auction in the fall of
2009 and taken on the task of clearing out the barns and shed. At the closing
J. M. handed over the soil maps and a large framed arial photo of the acreage
and farm buildings as it had looked in the early 1980’s soon after the new
house replaced an older one.
“You’ll want to get acquainted with Haskell Rogers,” he
advised. “He worked that farm for the last 30 years and he’ll tell you more
about it than I can.”
In our first weeks here as we made the rounds of bank,
insurance office, seed and fertilizer business, we had to explain just where we
had come to live. We were told--and retold--"You need to stop and see
Haskell. He could tell you history."
Those were busy weeks—gardens to till and fence; berry plants
to order and set out.
In the house, the faded blue carpets were ripped up,
replaced with hardwood. I painted the kitchen even as Jim was uncrating the new
cabinetry. Neighbors stopped by to
introduce themselves and make us welcome. Haskell’s name was mentioned often,
but we hadn’t found time to go in search of him.
We weren't sure who was arriving when a blue Chevy Blazer
turned slowly but confidently up the drive. It was the first week in May, a few
days past the deluge that sent Big Creek flooding onto the road.
‘Who on earth?’ I wondered.
Jim peered out and replied, "That must be the man who
used to live here!"
We hurried out to greet our guest as he pulled to a stop
near the carport. Haskell Rogers
wouldn't get out of the car, though we urged him.
"I had an errand in town," he said, "and then
I decided to see what damage the rain had done. Thought I’d stop to meet
you."
He shook our hands--his slender, dry-skinned and warm.
Jim had been wondering about the exact location of the old
well. Mr. Rogers pointed it out. He told us about the wonderful harvests from
the old pear tree--"over a hundred years old--I remember it from when I
was a boy in the neighborhood."
I enjoy history and I asked eager questions--about the
flood, about life as it had been lived here decades before.
Mr. Rogers admitted that he didn't remember moving here with
his parents. He was born in 1916, in Metcalfe County a few miles away.
His father bought farmland here and Haskell grew to young
manhood in Gradyville.
The new house that Doctor L.C. Nell built [on higher ground]
after the 1907 flood took the lives of his first wife and all but one child,
was within easy walking distance of the Rogers’ farm and young Haskell was
intrigued with the doctor's practice.
"I don't know just what Dr. Nell saw in me"
admitted Haskell, "But he made me welcome around his office and put me to
work. Later he recommended me for work as an x-ray technician and since there
was no large hospital in town then, emergency cases were often brought in to
the same office that housed the lab, and I worked beside the doctors to treat
the injured"
World War II interfered with any plans Haskell might have
made for a more formal medical training.
Still, folks who knew and respected him continued to seek his skills
when they were injured or ailing.
"I never pretended to be a doctor," he assured us.
"If I could help someone, I did. I was never afraid to say that a problem
was beyond what I could treat and that the person needed to see the qualified
doctors that I worked with."
Haskell chuckled softly, a sound we soon learned was the
preface to a story.
A man had come to the clinic where he worked one evening,
Haskell recalled. He had been
brawling—and probably drinking--- his face and mouth were bruised and cut.
Haskell assembled antiseptic and gauze, sutures and needles,
which he saw would be needed. He began carefully to cleanse the man’s battered
face only to have his patient shove him violently away, upsetting the tray of
instruments.
Quietly Haskell explained that the man needed to sit still
so he could assess his injuries.
The man struck him.
Haskell’s blue eyes twinkled. ‘It wasn’t very professional,’
he admitted, ‘but I’d had enough.
Without any thought to the matter I back-handed him on the undamaged
side of his head!’
Startled, the man had glared at Haskell.
“You one of them Rogers from o’er ‘ere in Metcalfe County?”
he grunted.
“I don’t know what he’d heard about us,” Haskell mused, “But
he sat quiet on that stool til I had cleaned and patched him up!”
Mr. Rogers returned for another visit the following
afternoon. Knowing that I was
interested in Gradyville history, he brought with him a copy of his late wife's
book. "I want you to enjoy
this." he said.
He also brought apples he had picked the year before from
one of the trees in this yard, sliced and dried. Several heads of garlic were presented in a plastic sack. He
emerged from his car and led J. over near the grape arbor to point out the
garlic growing there in clumps.
Haskell agreed to come in the house to see what we had done,
pleased to see our small treasures already displayed on the shelves he had made
around the fireplace--"for my wife's antiques. She loved old things." He created the shelves and cupboards
that grace either side of the fireplace, using lumber from a cherry tree cut
down on the property.
The sight of my piano inspired Haskell to tell us that day
of his mother and sisters who had played hymns at home and in church. I listened, delighted, as he told of choir
outings, all day singings, when church choirs from the area gathered to praise.
“I’ve played for church services most of my life,” I told
him, “Shall I play for you?”
Dale Hayes stopped
by a few days later and we fell over ourselves telling him that we had met Mr.
Rogers.
”I knowed that already!” Dale grinned. “I got something in
my eye and went to have Haskell take it out. He told me he paid a visit and
that you played hymns on the piano for him.”
It was Haskell who framed up the little garage. He had heard
a tale of the yellow poplar lumber having been salvaged from one of the
flood-ravaged houses. He wasn't sure he
credited that tale, until he dismantled the older building and saw the marks
and nail holes in the boards, indicating they had been used in another setting.
He smiled wryly as he admitted to Jim, “That garage isn't as
straight on one side as it should be.
The wind blew when I was framing it and knocked one side out of
line. I had to take the tractor and
pull it back.”
When Haskell left after his second call—the only time he
came in the house--he paid us the ultimate compliment. Pausing on the threshold he smiled. "My
wife would have appreciated what you are doing with this house. She would be pleased to know that you are
taking care of things here."
There were other visits.
We would look up to see the blue Chevy trundling carefully up the drive.
Haskell always had something to share—seeds saved from a favorite heirloom
watermelon—the kind he had raised here and taken to a family reunion.
He told me how to make pear honey from the bounteous harvest
of pears. We gave him jars of pear honey, canned pears, homemade bread still
warm from the oven, tomato plants.
Several weeks before Thanksgiving in 2011 Haskell turned up
with a container of shelled pecans. He
admitted he’d gotten dizzy stooping to pick them up so his daughter-in-law,
Wanda, had gathered the nuts. He had
shelled them out, sitting on the porch in his rocking chair. He hinted that he was fond of pecan pie—and
I made sure that we delivered one a few days later.
We shared things as country neighbors have always
done—talked of weather and seasons, gardens, animals. Haskell commiserated over
the problems of stray cats, but confessed that he always fed them. Jim occasionally made up a basket of fresh
stuff from the garden and dropped by with it to sit and chat for a few minutes.
Once as we sat with him on his porch, Haskell spoke of the
Depression years.
As a boy, he wondered why his family had so much company.
"We had no money,” he explained, "No more than
anybody else. But we had food--meat
hogs, a beef, garden stuff and fruit in jars.
We had a springhouse with shelves built all around and they were full.
Folks knew where to visit and be fed."
Generosity and kindness were surely as much a part of
Haskell Rogers as his humor, his integrity and his appreciation of all that was
good about country life.
I think that Richie Janes summed up Haskell in a few words,
when his name was mentioned one day at the fertilizer plant.
‘Haskell Rogers” said Richie, ‘is a fine man.”
He paused for emphasis, “A fine, fine man.”
We have been blessed to know Haskell Rogers these few years.
We shall miss his visits, the twinkle in his blue eyes as he
recalled a tale of other times.
He was a vital part of the neighborhood that welcomed us
home.
I enjoyed the tribute to Mr. Rogers and I'm sorry for your loss. Take care. Deb
ReplyDeleteDeb; Mr. Rogers will be greatly missed in our little community--a man of character and courtesy.
ReplyDeleteA fitting tribute to a fine, fine man. Not so many left as there used to be.
ReplyDeleteP.S. I just love the banner photograph of your blog. It is beautiful.
Chris; I think men of Haskell's caliber were more common in the generation before his--there were many such in the small town where I grew up.
DeleteGlad you like the banner--its one of my 'lucky' shots.
A fine man indeed, and you have written the most wonderful tribute to that fine man. I felt like I knew him. He lived to a great age - he was born the same year as my father but outlived him by 33 years. I think he will be much-missed in your community - one of the Old Guard - and they have thrown away the mould now it would seem.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful eloquent piece of writing.
Jennie; My father was likewise born in the same year as Mr. Rogers---he passed away in 2009. We are already missing Haskel--noting his empty chair on the porch of his house when we drive by.
DeleteHow sad to lose such a lovely man and such a wonderful neighbour.
ReplyDeleteRowan; When a good person lives that many years in one small neighborhood, I think he becomes not only the keeper of history but in a quiet way has been mentor by example to so many.
DeleteObviously lots of lovely memories of a charming man.
ReplyDeleteKath; He was indeed charming--but quietly so. He must have been a very handsome man through most of his life as well--good bones and good manners.
DeleteThat was beautiful and I feel like I know him just from your post.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing these delightful tidbits of a nice, kind gentleman.
Love and hugs ~ FlowerLady
Lorraine; Some of the details of Mr. Rogers selling the little farm at auction were grim--yet he welcomed us as the new owners and showed keen interest in our gardens. He was truly a gracious man.
DeleteA lovely post.
ReplyDeleteLillian
Lillian; Thank you. I appreciate that you also share stories of your parents and of earlier times.
DeleteWhat a treasure you had in Mr. Rogers. That was a nice tribute you wrote of him.
ReplyDeleteJane; I can only hope that younger people today have in their neighborhood a kindly soul such as Mr. Rogers. We shall miss him.
DeleteHe sounds like a wonderful man. He reminds me of our 85 year old neighbor who initially owned the 100 acres that our home and several others here are built on. He is a wonderful source of stories and information. He drives his tractor over quite often for a visit.
ReplyDeleteJan; Isn't it a wonderful thing that we have these active older folks in our lives--what a sense of connection!
DeleteThank you for sharing this, he sounds like he was a wonderful old man, I love to hear people tell their histories and the history of their home.
ReplyDeleteJanet; Haskell was such an interesting person--his lifetime spanned so many changes and he was very articulate, drawing us into his stories.
DeleteI'm sure he was as appreciative of you as you were here of him. Communities are all the poorer for a loss like him.
ReplyDeleteAl; We like to think that Haskell was pleased that his small farm [one of several he had owned or managed in the vicinity] was in the hands of folks who also loved to garden. He transplanted all the dooryard trees, bringing them from the woods, helped to design and tend the flowers that he and his wife loved. I think it pleased him to know that we were carrying on an appreciation of the place.
DeleteHe will be greatly missed.
a lovely post sharon... gentle, and warm, and a lovely tribute to Haskell.
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Leanne; He was a lovely man--wise, warm, caring and generous. His obit has been published this evening--he had so many accomplishments he never mentioned.
DeleteWhat a great tribute to what sounds like a fantastic man - I would have loved to meet him. So sorry.
ReplyDeleteEm; Haskel was a great person--old age had made him wise and patient rather than querulous---we shall miss him!
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely tribute. I wonder what he'd have thought? Did he know about blogs?
ReplyDeleteIsabelle; No idea if Mr. Rogers knew about blogs, but I expect his grandchildren, maybe even his g-grandchildren had mentioned modern technology. My essay ran today in the local online gazette and a great-nephew of Haskel phoned to introduce himself and thank me for the article. I do think Haskel Rogers knew he was beloved by our little community.
ReplyDeleteMost excellent tribute; it's always sad news when a good, kind, decent man, or woman, passes. It makes the world a poorer place for those of us left behind.
ReplyDeleteSandra; In the era of my childhood there seemed to be more of the men and women of Haskel Rogers' caliber--'real' people that we could cherish as role models, wise and generous. We are indeed the poorer for their passing.
ReplyDeleteOh, what a beautiful tribute to a very fine man...a Kentucky gentleman for sure. Thank you for sharing...
ReplyDeleteDiane; I met more of Haskel Rogers' family at the calling hours--they share his qualities of warmth and generosity, making me feel that I had known them--and him--for longer than our short tenure here.
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